“What’s your view on long-distance relationships?”, someone asked me the other night.
Medyo natawa ako sa tanong. I dunno why, but maybe because I’ve been asked about the same topic quite too often. Pansin ko lang, laging nasasama ang LDR sa mga usapan lately. Is this a sign? Should I be expecting something that is bound to happen... again? LOL
I’ve had 3 LDRs in my entire lifetime. All didn’t work out, and the longest one lasted for 2 years. Well, almost. Sabi ng iba, hindi na daw ako natuto.
Hindi madali, I tell you. Sa simula, you’d have an idealistic approach on the relationship, thinking that with trust and love, everything will work out just fine. Pero sabi nga sa isang kanta, “Love… It’s just ain’t enough…” Naranasan kong pareho ang mang-iwan at maiwanan. Both sucks big time, but I have to admit, mas mahirap ang maiwanan. As you go through it, malulungkot ka dahil lagi siyang wala sa tabi mo. Problems in communication and misunderstandings would soon arise. You’d have more demands and more expectations. Kapag hindi na-meet ng partner mo ang mga expectations mo, sasama ang loob mo, to the point of starting to self-pity. The worst part is, you’d start to compare efforts as well. Sasabihin mo na you love your partner more than he/she loves you, and that you’re exerting much more. It may sound sweet at first, but actually, it’s quite unfair to the other person. Sampal sa mukha 'yun. For me, love cannot be measured.
Mas mataas ang ‘death rate’ ng long-distance relationships as compared to those regular, conventional ones. And it’s quite obvious why. As I've said, love isn’t enough. It’s definitely not the only formula to make a relationship work.
With this, does that mean I won’t go for another long-distance relationship again?
Hmmm, we’ll see. Who knows? I've been discouraged by some though. Maghanap na lang daw ako dito sa Singapore.
Basta ngayon, ayoko na munang magsalita ng patapos.