Sunday, May 30, 2010

Desperate Move


Non-exclusive dating.

This is actually what I proposed to her para hindi niya ako iwan sa ere at basta ituring na kaibigan lang.

Ang usapan: she can date others, I can do the same thing. Then we can talk about it and share our experiences afterwards.

And surprisingly, she agreed and approved.

Desperation to the highest level, right? Sa sobra ko siyang gusto, naisip ko pa 'yung ganung idea, thinking that it would make her stay with me & bring back what we had before. Pero mali, na-realize ko na it's against my values at hindi ko pala kaya. I'm no Archie Andrews. Hindi ko kakayaning makitang makipag-date si Veronica Lodge kay Reggie Mantle at sa kung sino-sinong lalake. Selfish na kung selfish, pero mababaliw ako sa kaka-imagine kung anong ginagawa nila at kung gaano siya kasaya sa piling ng iba. Isa pa, masakit lang ding isipin na we started out dating exclusively for three weeks, tapos biglang magle-level down. Papahirapan ko lang ang sarili ko.

So when she told me one night that she'd be dating this Singaporean guy, hindi na ulit ako nagparamdam sa kanya. That was our last conversation, and I didn't even bother to say goodbye.

That was also the last time I've heard from her.

62 comments:

  1. But isn't that what dating should be? If she wasn't your girlfriend yet, even in those three weeks she could have met other people and you would not have had a say?

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  2. @ Anonymous: Do I know you? Are you one of my SG friends? Hahaha yeah, you have a point. A good one, actually. BUT you see, I was also at fault here. Hinayaan ko ang sarili ko na ma-fall sa kanya kaagad. Also as mentioned, we started dating exclusively tapos biglang hindi na. Alam ko walang commitment, pero alam mo 'yun, medyo umasa na ako. Alam kong mali, kaya nga I'm trying not to be affected too much now and just move on with my life.

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  3. awww.. malungkot na ending naman yun sir

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  4. gasul. tama lang yan. iinom nalang yan.

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  5. @ Bulakbolero: Tara inuman na! Libre mo ha. Hehe. :)

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  6. @ Anteros: Haha malungkot, but it's all for the best. :)

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  7. Gasul you and I have a lot of things in common and I am not gonna go into these details.

    My point.

    Yes desperate move ang ginawa mo, but I don't blame you for that. Naging honest ka lang sa feeling mo na atleast you still have the opportunity to win her back at least sa "exclusively dating" part. Pero parang hindi ko rin kayang ma imagine na she will date another guy at mababaliw din ako kakaisip nun papahirapan ko lang sarili ko. Pero, kung kaya mong tiisin yun for her I guess worth it basta sana you should have good judgment on when to stop.

    I just wish you happiness papi!

    God Bless you!

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  8. There's always Betty Cooper... relax!

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  9. dude, hindi nga ikaw si Archie Andrews. More of a Reggie Mantle (in fairness, hindi naman sa ugali) I mean yung pakikipag-date kay Veronica Lodge kahit alam ng lahat na babalik at babalik si Veronica kay Archie. ayun.

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  10. @ Jepoy: Huwaw ang haba ng comment. Hehe. Yeah, the moment she told me that she'd be dating another guy, I knew right there & then na kailangang ihinto ko na ang kabaliwang 'yun.

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  11. @ Glentot: Betty Cooper is my dream girl. <3

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  12. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uBmwdlBFs1s

    brohug for you na may kasamang kagat sa balikat :D

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  13. betty cooper is love ^_^

    nakakabaliw nga makita ang love of your life na nakikipagdate sa iba...

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  14. ang ginawa mo ay hindi isang desperate move. sinubukan mo lang ipaglaban yung nararamdaman mo sa kanya. walang masama dun.

    magiging masaya ka din gasul... mahahanp mo rin siya.

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  15. ang ginawa mo ay hindi isang desperate move. sinubukan mo lang ipaglaban yung nararamdaman mo sa kanya. walang masama dun.

    magiging masaya ka din gasul... mahahanp mo rin siya.

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  16. @ Efbee: WAHAHAHA! Panalo sa kanta! Pero teka, iba ang inaalayan ko ng kantang 'yan. Abangan sa mga susunod na blogpost. ;)

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  17. @ Gillboard: Hehehe sana nga. Magdilang-anghel ka sana. :)

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  18. @Gasdude

    Ganito, una sa lahat hayaan mo syang makipagdate sa iba, dahil hindi mo naman sya pag-aari. May sarili syang utak para magdesisyon pra sa kanyang sarili.

    Pangalawa, kung masaya sya sa iyo, kahit hindi mo sabihin maging "EXCLUSIVE" sya sa iyo, eh magiging stick pa rin sya sa iyo basta masaya sya kasama mo. Pero reality check, ibig lang sabihin nun may hinahanap sya na hindi mo na-meet. Yun lang yon.

    Ingat parekoy!

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  19. at least may guts ka pa ring tumigil..at putulin yung communication sa knya..bkit pag ako ang hirap??kakatempt magtext..hahaha.. :DD

    well gudluck.. :)

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  20. @ Drake: Hindi ka naman galit niyan ha? LOL. Kidding aside, na-appreciate ko ang comment mo, at gusto ko siyang sagutin punto por punto.

    Una, kaya nga hindi na din ako nagparamdam dahil alam kong dapat ko nang itigil 'yung kahibangang 'yun. Masakit, pero siyempre kailangang utak pa din ang pairalin sa huli.

    Pangalawa, hindi kapani-paniwala pero SIYA mismo ang nag-label sa amin nung una na we're "EXCLUSIVELY DATING". I was just enjoying the ride at first kasi nga hindi ko inexpect na magkakagusto siya sa 'kin. Hanggang sa na-fall na ako, at siya naman 'yung biglang nag-backout. Masyado kaming naging mabilis, kaya mabilis ding nawala.

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  21. @ Macz: Haha oo, it takes a lot of effort. Kailangan lang eh utak ang paganahin.

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  22. i think that's what they call bittersweet... sa lahat ng ito, may sakit, at may kaligayahan pa rin.

    you'll just have to look forward to a better and brighter relationship ahead. cheers!

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  23. heart versus mind na naman ba ito? hehehe......

    as a girl, nafeel ko po na mejo desperate nga ung ginawa mo, pero puso mo ang nagdikta na gawin un, so mahirap iwasan, ang maganda lang dun, nag take-over ang isip at nagdesisyong tapusin ang kabaliwan, kasi kung hindi, baka hanggang ngaun nag-iisip ka pa rin kung sinong dine-date nya, at in the process, eh tino-torture ang sarili mo...tama yan, take care of your heart kasi walang ibang mag-aalaga nyan para sa yo......

    ahhhmmm, may similarities nga kayo ni jepoy hehe

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  24. @ Weng: Hahaha meron ba? Kaya kami friends eh. LOL

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  25. kung talagang para sayo, babalik at babalik sayo...

    hard to get ka pala tsong! hehe

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  26. I see nothing wrong with your desperate attempt to keep her...siguro ang mali don, you even agreed to talk about your other dates....if it is because you want to discover yourself and what and who you want---then those realizations should happen in private---if you brag about it---that's just for the purpose of magnifying your ego. good though that since it goes against your values, you decided to walk away. it takes a lot of courage to do that......hope you never look back. just keep walking.

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  27. Me thinks its not a desperate move. Its human nature. Loving is one of the essence of being a human. True love knows when to let go. :-)

    Sorry nakikisawsaw lang... hehehe.

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  28. Me thinks its not a desperate move. Its human nature. Loving is one of the essence of being a human. True love knows when to let go. :-)

    Sorry nakikisawsaw lang... hehehe.

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  29. I salute you sa pagputol ng komunikasyon right after makipagdate sya sa iba, what an act of bravery, dahil sabi nga nila mahirap kalabanin ang sarili.

    Pero I have this friend who didn't lose hope when his bf tried breaking up with her... ang sabi n'ya lang ang mahalaga buhay si bf. It means there's still hope to win him back.

    I don't know if I would make sense kung sasabihin ko sayong 'wag mong putulin ang communication nyo kung talagang mahal mo sya. Just give her space and time to mingle with other guys but prove him your worth and that you're different from the rest. Open yourself for the possibilities na babalik at sasabihing "mas masaya sa piling mo."

    Nagmamahal,

    Kuya Eddie

    Hahaha, nadala ako sa sitwasyon mo. Cheers!

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  30. pare, di kelangan madesperado.
    wag magmadali.
    the right girl will come at the right time.

    kaw pa, ngiwi palang ulam na!

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  31. @ Kosa: Haha gagu! Me point ka, pero mas maganda kung wala na lang expectations.

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  32. @ Pusang Kalye: Thanks. Regarding that, it was not intended just for my own sake. Gusto ko lang magpatuloy 'yung connection naming dalawa thru honesty and open communication. Pero 'yun nga, hindi ko pala kaya.

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  33. @ Barako Admin: Hahaha love? Hmmm... I never thought of that. Hindi ko nga sure kung dumating ako sa point na minahal ko na siya. I would want to hold on sana para mas magkakilala pa kami ng lubusan kasi parang maigsi 'yung 3 weeks to get to know each other better.

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  34. @ elysplanet: Good point. Thanks. But I dunno, siguro different strokes for different folks. Choice ko kasi na lumayo na lang muna para umiwas sa pwedeng mas malala pa na mangyari.

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  35. @ Kuri: Hahaha ganown? Walang kanin? LOL

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  36. Baka rin kaya masyado ka lang EMO.

    Napapansin ko kc sa una ang yabang mo pero pagkatapos ng lahat lahat ng press release mo semplang ka rin naman.

    Di ba ganu ang mga mayayabang?

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  37. Ayown o! Meron akong hater. Hehe salamat sa pagbisita at pag-comment. Ikaw ba 'yung taga-Saudi Arabia?

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  38. Yup! ako nga.

    Actually, I love your blog, it's only what you are doing to yourself that I hate.

    Dapt kasi maging isa kang TNL.

    C u in singa on July! Dapat may bago ka ng chick nun...

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  39. @ Tukmol: I'd still take that as a compliment. LOL

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  40. sa una lang naman masakit yan, tapos after ilang buwan, matatawa ka na lang. saka hayaan mo darating yun moment na siya naman ang tutulo ang laway sau. make that moment happen. tapos dapat bwahahaha ang tawa mo. hehe. =)

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  41. Desperate indeed. Pero tama na you stopped it. Ewan ko for some Asian girls, pero Pinay dont date 2 or 3 men at a time. Isa isa lang. Kahit di pa magbf/gf! Di tayo sanay sa ganyang setup. Ü

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  42. just to remind you.. hindi ibig sabihin na nakipagdate na sya sau ay may gusto na sya sau, dating pa lang kayo pls don't expect too much, dont assume na pag mamay-ari mo na sya.. dapat you have to open your heart, maging prepare ka sa consequences,sa stage na dating you may win pero pwede ka rin talonan..

    masyado ba akong rude? sorry.. pero i think part of loving someone is letting go..

    wag sana tayong magiging selfish because loving someone that doesnt mean that person will love you back..

    anyway love is everywhere.. move on but dont move away..

    sorry napahaba ata comment ko..

    peace..

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  43. Ouch! Malungkot ka pala ngayon. OK lang yan, syet ung girl, pinalagpas ka niya. Her loss.

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  44. hirap ng may kahati sa totoo lang. tama yang desisyon mo. stand on your values!

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  45. aww. i think you made a sensible decision though.

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  46. whoa, naku mahirap nga yan.. ewan, minsan ang pag ibig nakaka suka..

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  47. Sabi mo eh, hehe. I wish you all the luck. Be happy always!

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  48. @ Anna: Oo. Kailangan ko lang mag-reduce ng onti at papapogi pa akong lalo para siya naman tumulo laway. Nyahahaha! :)

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  49. @ Chyng: 'Yun ang risk kapag ibang lahi. Hindi mo alam ang set of values lalo na't hindi mo pa ganun kakilala.

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  50. @ _ice_ : Thanks. Actually, siguro na-overwhelmed lang ako sa ipinapakita at sinasabi niya sa 'kin during the first two weeks kasi all-out praises at puro compliments ang binibigay niya sa 'kin.

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  51. @ Rhodge: Hehe basta ayoko na isipin sana. Doesn't matter anymore kung kaninong loss. I'm moving on. :)

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  52. @ Tim: Hahaha talaga? Ano ba naging experience mo?

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  53. Aww, inuman na lang tayo! Hehe!

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  54. this made me a bit sad. hope you're ok... pero buti na lang nagdecision ka na agad-agad na umiwas, bago ka pa mapamahal ng todo-todo.
    *hug*

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  55. i know everyone will agree that most of us wants someone who can commit themselves to "us".

    i gone through the same experience, exclusively dating kmi and all along i thought na ok kmi pro ngulat nlng aq 1 day na ndi na xa ngparamdam and nun tinanong ko xa, he kept telling me na busy lng daw xa..ampf!db!busy nga, sa ibang girl..

    pro gnun tlg!life must go on..

    you made the right choice kasi ang foundation ng isang strong relationship is commitment.

    thanks sa post!=)

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  56. you can never stop searching kuya alex. cheers.

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  57. sabi nga ni bob ong wag mo bibitawan ang isang bagay na hindi mo kayang nakikitang hawak ng iba! wala lang :) napadaan lang sa blog mo and i think i will follow u kasi naaaliw ako sa mga nabasa ko! i think i will enjoy reading more :))

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