Wednesday, July 25, 2012

Quantifiable


Why do we sometimes get too much involved at something even when others seem not to care?

I thought at first that this only happen in courtships and relationships when our feelings for the person we like or love don't get reciprocated or probably 'not as intense', but no, I just realized that this happens every time and everywhere.

How do we quantify our feelings? How do we quantify other people's feelings? Based on expressions? Based on actions? Are they even quantifiable at all?

I remembered this scene from a Filipino movie, when one girl said "I love you..." to her boyfriend, then the latter responded, "I love you more..." (or something to that effect).

That line "I love you more", sometimes I find it funny. Bragging much? (But admittedly, I used to say that also to an ex-girlfriend.)

Is it right to compare the level of intensity of our feelings with others? For example, our love we have for our partners as compared to their love for us? Or the level of commitment we have to a certain project as compared to the commitment of our teammates?

There will always be individual differences, I guess.

And sometimes we don't have much of a choice but to: (1) learn to accept certain things; and (2) think of ourselves first before others.


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On a lighter note, I just had a blast-filled weekend as a Couchsurfing friend came over to Singapore so I was on a tour guide mode again. We also met up with some other friends, and partied two nights in a row. Then last Sunday we went to the Marina Bay Sands and for the first time I got to experience their Infinity Pool. It was awesome!



20 comments:

  1. ang cool ng infinity pool sa marina bay. Sana maging richie rich ako at matry ko yans. bwahahaha.

    no comment ako sa first part.... medyo di ako makarelate sa ganoong factor much. :D

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  2. Words of my friend applies to this matter, ang relationship ay hindi contest na paramihan ng good deeds at sweet things na nagawa or isang lalagyan na dapat sukatin mayat maya kung ano ang naiaambag ng bawat isa.

    I guess me point sya.

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  3. I think quantifying one's feeling will be way too hard.. because there will be no definite measurement for feelings.. like.. will it be a kilo of love or a pound of happiness? or whatevs. its impossible...

    and when you're in a relationship, I think quantifying is one grievous mistake, you don't quantify, you don't see who loves better or wo can give better... that could start a fight... you're weighing each other, and it's not a good thing. You just don't.. hehehehehe...

    -->opinionated bitch is me... lol.

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  4. maququantify siguro sa oras na ginugugol mo. Hindi naman masamang magsukat dahil kung hindi susukatin paano malalaman kung nagkukulang na o nawawala na yung pagtingin o pagmamahal. Ang masama ay mag expect ng sobra sa alam mong hindi kayang ibigay noong isa.

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  5. yang mga i love you na yan ha. hehehe.
    medyo gasgas na ang magsabi ng i love you nowadays dahil karamihan hindi sincere eh. ipadama na lang siguro. yun lang muna .

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  6. may quantity ba talaga? ano yun bigas lang? e.g I love you like 1 sack of rice! nyahaha
    on a serious note though (weh?) I guess when you start counting the good deeds or which one of you gives the most/less effort on the relationship dun na nagsisimula yung conflict...sana nag accounting nalang kayo kesa nagsyotaan(?) diba?

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  7. para sa ibang tao, kailangan may pangsukat kung hanggang saan ang kayang ibigay... mapa pag-ibig man o sa trabaho.. siguro yun din kasi ang panukat ng iba kung gaano kalaki o kadami ang ibibigay nila pabalik sa iyo...

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    mukhang masaya nga sa infinity pool.. panalo!!

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  8. astig nman ng infinity pool sa penthouse ba un para kc kita un paligid sa baba?

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  9. saya naman jan sa infinity pool.. haven't tried that yet... :P

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  10. madali nalang ngayon magsabi ng i love you pero it doesn't mean that it's real...mas malala kasi nagiging expression nalang yan.... lies...

    -iyah

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  11. nice!! I'm planning to celebrate my birthday at MBS and try out the infinity pool na din! :)

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  12. tama naman na di dapat kinaquantify ang love or affection ng partner mo. ang importante eh mahal nyo yung isat isa di na kelangang magsukatan pa pero pero pero may point din si romz na pano natin malalaman kung sumusobra na o kulang yung naibibigay natin kung di natin susukatin. so para sa akin, kahit gasgas na, dependeng sa sitwasyon pa rin yan. sukatin lang ang pagmamahal ng partner mo all by yourself na lang o paminsan minsan lang. =D

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  13. It's human nature to quantify things. kahit di tayo aware na ginagawa natin.

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  14. nakakamangha talaga yang mga ganyang pool...

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  15. mejo tinamaan ako dito ah... siguro dpat nga nag accounting na lang ako hehe (tnx tabian...)

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  16. ang lalim naman nito
    pano nga ba susukatin ang pag-ibig?
    pakiramdam ko once you start quantifying it, the trouble begins....
    hehe

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  17. ang lalim naman nito

    paano nga ba susukatin ang pag-ibig, ano?

    pero pakiramdam ko once you start quantifying your feelings, dyan nagsisimula ang conflict sa relationship nyo
    wala lang
    just thinking out loud
    hehe

    happy weekend!

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  18. in the first place, why do we need to quantify? why do we need to measure? bakit kelangan tayo nagsusukat lagiiiiii? bakit? bakiiiiiiiit? haha.

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  19. Mahirap i-quantify abstract things like love because you can't see it, you can only feel it. Deep, hehe

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  20. "and sometimes we don't have much of a choice but to accept certain things and to think of ourselves first before others." - TEN POINTS NA MAY MALAKING CHECK NG KULAY FEEENK NA BALLPEN kuya! :)

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