Thursday, July 19, 2012

The One


How would you know if the person is 'The One'?

A friend of mine once asked me this question, and I was like, "Errr... Hmmm..." Honestly I didn't know how to respond. If you're familiar with my track record, you will realize that I really am no expert when it comes to courtship and relationships so why even bother asking? LOL

But it made me think and reflect. In our lifetime, we meet a lot of people from different backgrounds and with various personality types. Some will leave a somewhat positive impression, and some will not. Some will share common interests, and some will not. Some you will automatically like and make a connection with, and then some, well... it will have to take time I guess.

And that's just half of the whole pie. Some of our feelings do not really get reciprocated. Some will probably find us 'nice', but do not see any so-called 'magic' or 'spark'. Some will straight away classify us under 'FRIENDS' and nothing more. Some, no matter how 'da-moves' we do or 'pa-cute' we make, they will still despise us, or worse, feel indifferent about our efforts.

So... how would you know? I am amazed how some people claim that they just know. Some credit it to certain 'signs' and some, prayers that were answered. I know of this couple who only took a week or two to change their Facebook status from "in a relationship" to "engaged". I am still wondering, don't they believe in long courtship?

Twice in my life I thought I had found "The One", but you see, I'm not in any relationship at the moment so obviously I was mistaken. 

Finding someone who reciprocates your feelings is not a guarantee. Being in a relationship is also not a guarantee. Heck, even those married ones break up.

So again, how would you know if you have already found 'The One'?

Is it something that you will instantaneously know? Is it a feeling, a hunch maybe, or a decision that you have to make? Is it destiny? Is there even such a thing as destiny?

I don't know... I'm not really sure...

But there's this one thing that I am really praying and hoping for,

That one day,

Everything will fall into place.

'Coz when that time comes,

I will be prepared,

And you, whoever you are, will be too,

Then all the waiting will be over.

Our paths will finally cross.

26 comments:

  1. finding and having The One ias always a choice and never just a mere feeling. alam ko, andyan na sya bro kaya kapit lang!

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  2. life is like a puzzle...

    minsan akala mo tama ang mga pieces at mabubuo na ang picture perfect only to find out na may mali pala at may slight difference kaya ang pieces ay di tumugma.

    But eventually, like what you are hoping and praying, everything will be in its perfect place.

    :D

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  3. haaaaiiist.... my advise to you... just wait and don't push yourself too much looking for that someone. minsan bigla nalang yan bubulaga sa harap mo at magugulat ka nalang inlove kana. wala sa itsura, ugali, istado sa buhay, pananamit ect ang dapat maging basehan ng pagmamahal..kasi love is a decision..yes yung feelings nandyan pero sumatutal magdedecide ka pa din. walang perfect na lovelayp, kung naghahanap ka ng ganyan baka tumanda ka ng binata. hehehe..diba sabi pa nga all have sinned and fall short..lels sssshhhh... alam mo na kung saan ko hinugot yun.

    cheers to u!

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  5. Dumating ako sa point ng buhay ko na ganyan din ang narandaman ko.

    Yung iba, pinagpa-pray.

    Yung iba, nakakakita ng sign.

    Yung iba, reto ang naging The One nila.

    Yung sa akin? Pinaghirapan.

    I swear. Nung time na feeling ko nagkakaubusan na ng lalake, naghanap ako ng lalake. Naghanap ako sa friends of friends. Naghanap ako sa blogosphere. Nakipag-date, nakipag blind date, nakipag speed dating. May palpak, may swerte. Pero madalas palpak. Ganyan naman siguro kapag naghahanap, parang treasure hunting, minsan ang mahuhukay mo ay ginto pero mas madalas sa minsan ay tae ang mahuhukay mo. Pero, at least, naghukay ka.

    Shet ano na nga ba ang point ko?

    Ang point ko, kanya kanya ng trip yan. Kung trip mong mag-pray para sa The One, gow. Kung gusto mo maghanap ng sign, gora! No shattering of trip.

    Kahit ano pa mang method ng paghahanap mo, isa lang ang dulo nyan, makakahanap ka.

    Pano?

    Depende sa method mo.

    Oo, ang gulo ko.

    I'm sorry.

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  6. Para sakin dapat siguro ung journey ineenjoy lang. Paano tayo makakahanap kung hindi naman tayo nakikipag socialization (Parang subject lang) Or hindi open yung heart natin to try and enjoy.

    Hindi naman siguro bawat kibot nalang ng social life natin gf bukang bibig, hindi yun ang point ko, dapat lang talasan siguro ang searching capability for possible soon to be the one. Tingin basta enjoy lang sa journey.

    Ang dami kong sinabi di ko naman maapply sa sarili. LOL

    Basta ganun ang gulo ko din.

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  7. I have said that I have found "The One," but turns out that it was a mistake....,you know, good things happen especially to those who wait :)

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  8. Wag ka lang mapagod maghanap para yong naghahanap din sayo di rin mapagod. Kasi kapag napagod ka na..ay wala na yan...di ka talaga dadatingan ng grasya. hahaha.

    Key lang diyan search lang ng search habang may masi-search. LoLs..did I make sense? hahahaha

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  9. I don't know either.. Basta naniniwala lang ako na in God's perfect time, darating siya..

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  10. I guess when everything seems to fall into place without effort. :\

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  11. Just have an open mind and heart kung gusto mo makita si "The One". Kasi if you set "certain standards" sa paghahanap mo ng the one, naku aabutin ka ng 48 years bago mo siya mahanap kasi ika ni uncle Sam Keen: We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.

    Kaya just go with the flow, makipag socialize and entertain every possibility to find the one or the one finds you. Kasi if it is meant to be, then it is meant to be.


    May sense ba ang sinasabi ko? LOL Gulo ko rin :))

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  12. it depends on who you ask. for those who are happily married or currently on the "honeymoon" stage of a relationship might say yes, you would know when it's "the one". but for those who are in a not so good relationship...or worst in a divorce, they might say "i guess i chose the wrong one".

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  13. I can relate to your article. Gaya mo I once said I found the one but eventually we parted ways. Sabi nga nila, "Mahirap magsalita ng patapos..." With regards to finding the one... I guess meron the one for a certain moment and the only way to maintain him or her as your the one, you must fall in love sa kanya every day as he/she changes... Love all the changes happening sa kanya physically, sa attitude basta lahat ng pagbabago... when you achieve on doing that... I guess you made that someone... the one! =)

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  14. hmmm... i think u found da one if u love da person despite of his status in life... his looks... his attitude... kinda like you love him unconditonally....parang without him it doesn't matter kung anong merong yaman ka sa mundo or estado mo sa buhay... parang nothing matters without him... ur life becomes meaningless pag wala sya sa buhay moh... for some reason you feel like your somehow connected... feels like u found the other half of ur heart... its like that person became the beat of your heart... the reason why you can still breathe and live... and feeling na both of u can't live without each other... somehow nakakasurvive kau sa mundong itoh dahil sa isa't isa...

    naks naman!... kaya i agree depende siguro kung sino ang tatanungin moh 'bout sa the one na yan... akoh kc pakiramdam kc nang puso koh and i believe... and i pray kay God na 'ung baby koh is my the one... the person who i'll spend the rest of my forever with...naks... later... Godbless!

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  15. Palagay ko, tagging someone "the one" is just a state of mind. When you're relationship is at its finest, you are happy, you are contented, you always thought na ang karelasyon mo ang "the one" na tlaga, but it could change when you're on the rocks. What I'm trying to say is anyone could be the one, but it's up to you how you'll make that last :)

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  16. hahahaha.. somebody single will have goose bumps on your few last lines. hahahahaha.. Maybe I could boast a little.. medjo nasa matagal na relasyon na din kase ako ngayon.. hahaha..

    and yet I'm gonna honestly say.. I 'm not really sure how this works for me.. and that i think it's kinda true nga na you'll just feel it.

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  17. Siguro, mararamdaman na lang natin na siya na pala yung the one. Hehehe. :)

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  18. Siguro, malalaman na lang natin na siya na yung the one. :)

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  19. Ang lalim Sir! Hahahaha!
    Tama, waiting and praying. All will fall in the right place when the right time comes.

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  20. its a decision. di pwedeng puro puso lang dapat may isip din kaya para masabi siya na talaga eh dapat pangatawanan mo at panindigan mong siya na talaga. =D

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  21. Sabi nila You cant find ung the one mo kung hindi ka maghahanap... Kaya go and explore and meet friends...

    Goodluck sa pag hahanap mo sa kanya....

    Wag mo masyado tataasan ang standards mo...

    Baka kasi nanjan na sya sa tabi tabi hindi mo lang nakikita dahil my hinahanap ka... (ay ano ba yun)..

    Cya cya cya.....

    Ingats...

    And enjoy life....

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  22. akala ko 'he's the one" di pa din pala... well, sabi nga if its not a happy ending then its not yet the end hehehe may sense ba? e kz naman 'can't give what i dont have' :)
    pray and look na lang always! stay safe always and nice to see you drop by again...

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  23. Bakt ba sobrang ilap mo "the one" ? hays.

    Siguro para pag nakita natin siya worht it ang lahat ng pagiintay.

    tiwala lang makikilala din natin siya :))

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  24. Ohhhhhhhhhhh. Good read!
    On a semi-related note, my friend who majored in Psychology told me that there is no such thing as 'destiny'. She believes that if you put two people together, say for example in an island, they WILL develop feelings for each other because of proximity. Or maybe, some sort of false affinity. I don't know. But anyway, good read!

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